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Originally Posted by ramonajones
But clearly he CAN help himself because he won't have a physical relationship with me. He's bad at therapy with me. It's just the way that he LOOKS at me and tells me that I fill him with desire and that he'd absolutely have wild passionate sex with me if it weren't against the rules that keeps me going back. I want to hear it over and over and over again. It makes me feel desirable and I have always felt undesirable. Even though my husband loves me and tells me I'm beautiful and sexy, I have an intense need to hear it from THIS MAN. THAT'S what I'm handing over all of my money and sanity for.
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Did you tell him these^ exact things?
Does he actually still reinforce it verbally?
I'm not actually sure there is necessarily a "bottom" with this. You can keep seeing him for many more years this way, spending all the money, time and mental energy. I don't know... but after a while I imagine it might not have the same effect on you except more frustration with the limitations and feeling trapped.