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Originally Posted by Hopingtrying
 Besides enduring a lot of trauma in your youth (being bullied by your family) you have neither an income or a good support system--I think you should be proud of yourself for not giving up, soldiering on.
Your posts are not boring!
Some of us have certain tendencies which will be with us for the rest of our life. Just when we think we have conquered the demon, a little stress comes along and the old familiar patterns (coping mechanisms) repeat again and again. Sometimes when we change our environment and friends that can help but sometimes it is hard to get an enviroment that is healing (the perfect job, family, etc.) As far as going in circles goes, here is an example: my H and I had a big fight on Monday and Tuesday. At the end of it, we could help but notice that the underlying themes in our fights have not changed for 30 years! Unless I get rid him and find another--our fights are going to be like this until death do us part! |
Hmm. That is interesting about the fights being the same for 30 years. My friend complains because her husband is messy and throws his clothes on the chair instead of hanging them up. Well, let's see, I was her maid of honor at the wedding and I think she started complaining about him being messy within a month. She has been repeating this same complaint to me for decades. I always think well the guy doesn't cheat or drink or waste money but she complains about this one thing like it was a deal breaker.
When I am stressed and depressed I isolate which is absolutely the worst thing. When they fired me from this last job I was wild with despair not because of the money (although yes, that) but because I knew it would throw me back into isolation.
I am not normally introverted except when stressed. You comments were really wise and smart. And insightful. Thank you so much~ I appreciate your time and thoughts.