Thanks all for the advice, it was a conclusion that I already made for myself but it's helpful to hear you guys say it as well. Friends have told me the same thing, but I guess I could use some "anonymous advice" as well.

I have indeed apologized to her for coming on too strong that night. She had told me in advance that she wanted to take it slow, it had only been a couple of dates & the first one where I invited her into my home. Even though in the moment she went along with it, I could have foreseen (from what I knew about her character at that point) that there was a strong possibility of regret on her part later on. So in retrospect I could have made a wiser choice if only for myself.

However, that doesn't excuse her current behavior one bit, esp. since all was said and done when she told me she was still angry a couple of months ago. Since then she has approached me on her own initiative twice (once through chat & once in real life), only to push me away again just a few days after. When I point out that such behavior is unacceptable and not respectful for my own feelings, she keeps on coming back to the "what you did" excuse. As if that grants her a free pass to approach me whenever she feels like it, and however she's feeling at that moment. And blaming her burnout on me is NOT okay in any way. On the contrary: if you're in an emotional state where that can happen, it's pretty irresponsible to start dating people (esp. through Tinder!)

So yeah, even if I hear from her again (and there's a small chance I might), I'm definitely going to steer clear from now on. She's gotten too much credit from me already.

Thank you all for listening!