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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
Thanks Alison 
I read somewhere a long time ago how having an "inadequate" mother sets someone up for a "lifetime of unrequited love" 
I think there is a lot of truth in this.. I'm not sure what her "diagnosis" would have been, as neither of the parents, nor the step unit went for "help"..
So I received all the "glory" from the professionals, all the labels and the blame...
I was honestly concerned about passing on.... ah but it's too late now, not much matters any more  |
I'd
completely agree that "difficult" experiences with parents when you're growing up, more vulnerable, more impressionable..........they say children can be like sponges taking so much in unquestionably..............can have a big impact on your self worth, self image, relationships,
so much..........in later life............
But it is so good that you do have/have managed to find that "space" in you where you
do see her for what she was...........and she was completely wrong to treat you that way
And...........it is great that you can step back and recognise that x or y difficulty can be due to the
faulty messages you received when you were a child/younger adult..........that can be a weapon in the armory to challenge the inner thoughts/feelings behind what you're struggling with
But the labels.........the blame..........the blame bit can only come from the "uneducated"...........those who don't "get it"...........so if you can maybe use those labels in
your favor.........in getting the help and support you need..........and if that can't be from professionals right now.........then at least from online support..........because there should
never be blame attached
Alison