Quote:
Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
The mother always said how I was a "very selfish young lady"...
When I was 18, a girlfriend of mine said something about me to her.. I was far from perfect, I was pretty screwed up even at that age 
She told my girlfriend "she's always been like that"
Absolutely not I was just beginning to become a "person"
I have no idea where the mother was coming from with that statement. .....
(This same girlfriend said how the mother was a "sad person" ... the issue she commented upon was a behavioural issue - no physical or even emotional abuse on my part ) |
I'm wondering if you're trying to make sense of things like that
she had said...........trying to reason why she might have said things either to disprove things to yourself/"convince yourself" you weren't the person she saw".........or to explain to yourself how you
could be the person she saw..........or have it fit in/"feel right" with the "logic" e.g. of it wasn't your fault etc.............
But to truly, absolutely make
complete sense of it, as she felt/said those things.........you would have to feel like her/have some of her responses...........and I wholeheartedly doubt you could
ever do that.........you're just
way too good a person.........and that is a
good thing
But either way, maybe you could agree, that she was already
way, way, way more screwed up than you ever were at "even at that age"........??
Alison