I agree. It either is one way or another way with no other choices.

I think people are confusing Black and White Thinking with 'Emotional Reasoning' 'Mental Filtering' and 'Disqualifying the Positive'

Black and White Thinking = all or nothing (vs finding somewhere in between)
Emotional Reasoning = gut feeling (vs objective facts)
Discounting the Positive = twisting positive into negative
Mental Filtering = overlooking the positive by focussing on the negative