If this offends anybody here than I'm sorry but I will tell it like it is.

If one of my abusers or anybody who has caused me significant grief came to me begging for my forgiveness I would make them get on their knees and beg me. If they actually did I would tell them there are only two ways I would forgive them: they are to either donate a significant amount of their money or time to help those who struggle with mental illness or trauma and commit to helping the homeless or they are to offer their life to me as penance.

Those are the only two things that an abuser could possibly do to earn my forgiveness.