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It seems like every step I take I making the wrong step

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">From everything you've written, it doesn't sound like that is true at all. You have taken many positive steps--getting your anger under control, starting to see a therapist for yourself and working on your problems with CBT, seeing a couples counselor with your wife. You are doing so much!

Hang in there, dragonphoto. The thing you can do to help is be patient. Give yourself and your wife time to make some progress in your couples therapy. Try not to withdraw from your kids. They need you. It is hard for them to not be with their Dad on holidays (and other days too!). When you withdraw, they don't think "dad is hurting right now and is too sad to be with us", but instead "dad doesn't love us anymore or care about us." That's just a kid's viewpoint. Please call your family today and wish them a happy Thanksgiving. It will mean so much to them, especially your kids. It will also be important to them to know that mom and dad at least talked to each other on Thanksgiving.