My h is the bread winner and we have a marriage teetering on divorce for the past 20 years. It is crazy in and of itself. He has no desire nor ability to financially support his in-laws. They are just too financially needy. It is not feasible regardless. Plus, we have three kids. Therefore, the support was not happening regardless. Plus, my mother is a controlling, abusive witch who constantly upsets me.

So, isn't my thinking logical that this conflict was inevitable?

My sisters get a free pass because they are poor. Except my one sister's husband got an inheritance from his father, but no way in hell would that son-in-law give our mother one dime.

So, the last money I gave her, I 'coerced' her necklace out of her. I was 'mercenery' and 'conniving' in saying that I was buying my inheritance. Because if I had to keep giving her money, I wanted to at least get my favorite thing of hers out of it.

Well I regret that now, because she caused WWIII from it by demanding it back, and now it's all blown up for good.

I guess, the thing for me to have done, in hindsight, was to simply, with kind, sad, puppy eyes, tell her no to any more money...period.

She would have made snide comments and hated us, but there would still be some sort of relationship. Am I kidding myself?