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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I suppose I can go over there and say we can maintain a relationship, and that what happened is water under the bridge. From there on, I just don't offer any help and say no when asked. But I am still their daughter.
My mom probably isn't even phased from my crying and her screaming scenes that have happened. She never was, always just acted like nothing ever happened. But, then it just perpetuates more toxicity. IDK what to do.
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You need more time to sort out your feelings. Continue taking a break for her. It will not be forever because she is your mother. If a true health emergency comes up--I think you should see her. After taking this break, maybe see her periodically but limit the time because she is hurting your mental health. She may be the one that caused SOME of the dysfunction in your marriage. It is sad I know. She is the way she is because it is her coping mechanism because her life hasn't been easy. I think some people manage to take tragedies and become more patient and understanding as a result. Others battle the world instead and take things out on the people they love. They have a hard time really loving people in a true/good way. She is toxic for you.....
