You said "I should have been over it years ago"
Do you know what happens to me?
Things that i have been over them years ago, and I was over them, really, are coming back, "reloaded".
Not sure if this is a depression thing or if it is that I am a grown up person now and as such I become more aware about certain details (for example, hidden intentions of other people, their real "agendas", their flaws). And this is not for free, I mean, it is not innocuous to me.