I can sort of relate.

I've never had an erotic transference toward any therapist of mine, but I was very much attached to my first therapist, where I saw her as my "mother". (And the really f_cked up thing is that she is my parents' age and her kids are my age (25). AND BOTH SHE AND HER KIDS WERE FRIENDS WITH MY FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK. THEY ALL KNOW EACH OTHER. THERE ARE PICTURES AND EVERYTHING. Sooooo... yeah.)

It was a very odd predicament, all things considered. I had the whole fantasy of me being a member of her family -- like me being her own child. I mean, the whole "your kids are my age and all your kids are friends with all my friends, and you know everybody i know too" didn't help AT ALL. I could literally envision myself becoming a part of her family because everything just aligned SO PERFECTLY. The transference was REAL. omg.

She ALSO treated me like a child sometimes too. "Well, my son does XYZ just like you" or "my daughter loves doing that too" blah blah blah. Or "kids your age shouldn't be doing that. i would know because my kids are your age." (The whole "critical parent" thing.) That REALLY encouraged the whole mother-child thing I had with her. AHHH! My mother used to scold me like that!

I used to go home and fantasize about being a member of her family. It was soooo weird. I had that whole "buzzing and exciting" feeling that you did after every session. I mean, if I didn't know her before becoming her client, it was VERY possible I could have met her and become her friend on Facebook. And I kept thinking about it EVERY TIME.

She ended up terminating with me to pursue a therapist opportunity at a different office, and that office was too far from my house. It hurt really bad because all of my fantasies were shattered. I cried for like 2 weeks. Ever since then, I've taught myself to back waaaaay off from any therapist. NEVER AGAIN.

If any one of my therapists starts encouraging that parent-child sh#t, especially the critical parent sh#t, I am going to call them out on it right then and there. That's not how I play anymore. I am absolutely not going to put myself in the predicament I had before because of how much it hurt. Seriously, it's not healthy for me, nor would it be healthy for anyone. (Not trying to sound like a jackass. lol. But seriously... I will call them out on it right when I see it happening because I don't want it starting up again.) I'll be very blunt about it too.