Okay. In my understanding of TA, its YOURSELF that has the 3 states within you. Your t has no dog in this fight. If he is playing the parent to your child, its as if you and he agreed to sit in chairs labeled parent and child, but they are both YOU. He isnt really present as himself. He is manifesting the fight within yourself.

Its "better" to be our adult self and take responsibility for our actions, like going to bed when we should, rather than having parent demanding and child protesting. How or in what area are you yourself stuck in a parent-child role with yourself? What is stopping you from taking appropriate action? Ie what is the roadblock to that action? What fear or feeling is holding you back? Whats the payoff? (My most hated question!)