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Originally Posted by thesnowqueen
That's really interesting because my partner always seems certain about everything! And sometimes something he will have expressed certainty about will turn out wrong. This used to ENRAGE me. He told me he feels certain and sure about these things - it's just that he turns out to have been mistaken about whatever it is. Even if I'm certain about something I often find it difficult to express with certainty. I'm always hyper-aware of how I might be wrong. At some points I have thought it might be a gender thing - boys are raised to be more certain about themselves - but to be honest I think it goes deeper...
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Ah, I can
definitely relate to that! It enrages me too...
I think there is definitely a gender thing there - boys are socialised with the instruction that they
must be sure of themselves - it's not 'manly' to be unsure, and girls are raised
never to be sure of themselves - it's not 'ladylike' to be assertive. Obviously it's not always that strict but there's definitely a societal bias.
It probably does go a lot deeper too, though, and a lot of it must be about our partners' (and our) particular experiences whilst growing up.