i dont mean to be the wet blanket and all....but whatever you do keep a private bank account and just save money as you go along....i am not saying this relationship will go downhill but you are talking to someone who just went through it....now i am scrambling to get money together.....dont keep it a secert that your saving money on the side for yourself...but just dont give him the password or anything.....keep it for yourself....and only for yourself....good luck