I didn't vote in your poll because it seems too silly to do so.Only you know whether you cheated or not and since you say you didn't I believe you.

I'm not sure what the point is of the poll,are you planning on showing him the results?Are you going to base your relationship on votes?I don't get it.

I did read your entire post though(which I hope someone comes along and breaks it into paragraphs so it's not just a wall of words that most people won't even bother reading because it's too difficult to).It doesn't sound like a very healthy relationship at all and it sounds like maybe you both could benefit from marriage counseling.Or if he's not willing to go then maybe therapy for yourself might be a good idea to help you decide what to do about it,whether you should stay with him or not.