Since you asked, I think not.

One reason is that if it were me, and I thought t might be reading, I would likely shape my posts with that in mind. And then I would wonder what t thought, and then wonder if t read, and then my mind would be off and running...

Another reason-and I in no way want to sound like I think prev-T's behavior was your fault-is that it does seem wise, in light of your last experience to pay attention to boundaries. From what I know, people who abuse persons outside of their family "groom" victims. They slowly suck their targets in so that the target thinks that what is going on is ok. From what I have read here, your prev-T did exactly that. And it was absolutely excruciating for you. And again, from what I understand, abusers look for certain qualities in their potential targets. A person who has those qualities probably needs to be extra careful. And that sounds like I am perhaps saying some of the blame lies with the victim. Which is not what I am trying to say.

Take me, for example.I have a tendency to get involved with people who are addicts. That does not mean that it is my fault if a partner drinks/uses-that is about them and their stuff. But it does mean that if the first two dates the guy gets drunk, that I probably ought to look elsewhere. And I probably don't want to hang out in bars to meet guys. So if new-T shows any signs of trying to suck you in, I would run for the hills. I think I would be very careful about outside contact and if it is within professional limits and I think I would be more rigid than might be necessary.