Another thought I had that might help you, Rio. Think of the "distance" of when something bad happened. When you're an eight year old, anything different happening is 1/8th "power". Now, things are 1/19th power (I forget if you're 18 or 19 :-) As you get older they'll only be 1/57th power (things that happened to me when I was a child), etc. They get weaker because you've lived longer and experienced more and gotten "smarter" about how life works, etc. So each event holds less power because there have been more events, both good and bad, for them to "compete" with but also for them to "teach" you that it's all okay, you'll survive.