Who is this "agency" person who lectures you? Is she an actual social worker with MSW after her name, or some kind of support "worker?" She doesn't sound like a professional. They "usually seize children" living in houses like yours, but they're being nice? "They" are supposed to remove children from a home where they are being abused or neglected. To leave children in circumstances like that would not be "nice." It would be criminal. Nobody can just "take" your kids, if you are being a responsible mother. That doesn't mean perfect either. Are the kids clean, well fed? Why do you fear losing your kids? In what way is this agency saying your kids are in danger?

You can't address your father's hoarding problem. You need to stop living with him. He will, or he won't, come to grips with his problem, but it's not really your business. He may be unable to overcome his compulsion to hoard. How are you able to contribute to the rent? Do you have an income? So, besides Dad and brother, there's another man living in this place. This is truly crazy. You need at least 5 bedrooms to accommodate all these people. Is this a house, or an apartment? If your father doesn't own this place, I'm amazed a landlord would allow 7 people to live there. This would drive anyone to the brink of insanity, if not over the edge.

A normal life, like you've always wanted, requires you to lay some basic groundwork. First step is to not be dependent on your father for the roof over your head. You've been avoiding being alone all your life. Ironically, you feel very alone. Depending upon how old your children are, you may need to find employment for yourself.

You have a lot of catching up to do, but you are still young. Take things one step at a time.