gerber, I am glad you have chosen to stay in therapy.

I think when you are ready to share the big thing, you will. Focusing on it a lot can actually make it harder. Maybe just try to have a couple of laid back sessions where you talk about other things, and wait for this thing to be ready to come out and be shared with your T. I have had some hard things to share, and my T was very patient, and told me not to force it, and that he appreciated my ambivalence about sharing. No pressure. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Just let things be and they will happen when the time is right.
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i am dying for some kind of deeper empathetic thing.. i don't know exactly what. He has hit it dead on a couple of times.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">If it's happened before, then it will happen again. It is wonderful you are able to have these moments sometimes with your T.

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i don't know what he would do if i cried.. i mean, i know he wouldn't run sceaming or anything, but i dont know how he would react.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Maybe you can relieve your anxiety about this by asking him what he would do if you cried.

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i have a hole in my heart that i nee to learn how to close, but to do it someone has to be able to touch it.

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