Thanks for everyone's replies, perspectives...

I really am having a hard time with this issue. Became convinced that my H was monitoring my every move last week. He "had it out" about it yesterday. Now I am unsure that the monitoring was what I imagined (PC, email accts, etc.). All this is happening while one of our children is about to make a huge mistake. I am reacting to the stress from the situation with self doubt, paranoia, etc. I am having a hard time and am complicating matters instead of helping.

My battle today is to make sure that I am living in "reality" and do what is right for my children's well being. It is really hard for me to be the kind of mother I need to be because I am indecisive and a bit mentally ill (MI) but I am trying.