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Old Nov 22, 2007, 11:03 PM
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Can you ever trust again? I am trying, I have come a long way in therapy, but when your T becomes more than your T, it muddled the therapy situation, and then I lost him even though I left. He hurt me, and that is hard to accept, he took advantage of me emotionally . I do trust my new T and have gone farther with my child abuse issues in 3 months than I did with my old T in 2 1/2 years. But I progressed in other areas to because of my old T help.

But when your T crosses the line, it hurts like hell, when his counter-transference forces him to be very unkind to me because of his growing feelings. He means so much to me still, but I feel such a loss, he intertwined into my life so much, now that he is gone, I am reminded daily of what I have lost. It is just sad.

EVen though the stretching of the boundries felt good at the time, I wish he would have kept them. I miss him at the gym, in sessions, and especially since I am grieving my brother and my grandchild's death, I miss his support. Slowly I am turning to my new T for support, and missing my old T is becoming less, but it is just so sad.