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Originally Posted by sophiesmom
I understand what you're saying.
My husband does not know I post here. If he did, I would have to edit my words carefully and I don't feel that it's therapeutic to do so. As it is, I have had posts taken down, not because of him, but because they are revealing.
IF I thought he did watch me here, I would figure out a way to become more anonymous or I would simply find another forum.
I would think if your husband was watching you, then he wouldn't tell you. Not that I think he's the sneaky type, but common sense says that if you knew, you would edit what you say also....So his information would be less.
Fortunately, you can be someone else, here. It is more difficult as you have to also talk about more obscure things and add in a few "borrowed" issues. But that's easy enough to do.
Hugs. PM any time.
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I have told him generically that I post at the PC forum. That it's social. That I have friends here. Since I know you have read many of my posts (and vice versa), I bet you would agree that 90 percent of my posts are about me not anyone in my family. Sometimes I do overshare. It happens when I am emotional/impulsive. If he reads this then he just knows the truth about how I feel. The issue for me is: Would he tell me lies in order to manipulate/control me? Since last summer, 50 percent of the conversations with my T are about conversations H and I have. I would rather discuss this with a T but we can't afford it right now and it's really bothering me. PC is my free therapy. I do agree with you that he could be watching me and not telling me. I wish I hadn't told my kids about my current problem this weekend but they said, "He probably is."
I do not feel good about the fact that I involved our children in this situation this weekend. I think the fact that H and I are not "on the same page" has not helped them. It is an example of me doing the "wrong thing" when stress happens in my life.