My oldest DD who is now 12 does not seem to comprehend the idea that other people have feelings & that her actions can be hurtful. I try to explain it to her. Make her more aware of how someone feels, but she seems to ignore it. To me she seems very self centered & tunnel visioned on herself.
My other DD who's 9yo has too much empathy! She cries at hallmark commercials if u know what I mean. She's extremely sensitive to the point I have to be careful what she's exposed to.

I know we don't have any control over genetic makeup but I've been hoping that my 12 yo would start to notice things more. Maybe get that feeling of joy from doing something nice for another.
Or is that just her nature.