This might sound harsh but I would suggest doing what I did and disown your entire family. All the majority of my family did was try to control me and make my childhood a living hell and the few who didn't wouldn't have anything to do with me because of some lies my mother told them so as far as I am concerned, they can all die for all I care; I'm better off without them anyways.

We don't get to pick our family, therefore, blood doesn't mean a damn thing. To me, true family is the rare people in your life who actually respect you want to help you and have your back when you need them.

So yeah, if they caused you that much pain, disown them and don't look back. Establish no contact, change your phone number, and if they try to find you, get a restraining order. You're too good for people like that who only hold you back anyways.

If you feel guilty about ignoring them, don't. They want you to feel that way so they can control you. Even if your uncle wasn't the one who did most of the abusing, his gossip can potentially be more damaging than any kind of physical abuse.

Don't feel anything for those parasites. Break free.