So I'm a young gay guy, and I feel like its hard to find a real relationship. I can't just be someone who says sexual things or has sex just because. I'm the kind of person who wants a real loving relationship. But it's hard to find someone who wants the same things I do that I can connect with. It seems like every guy I've been with has used me and the one guy who didn't couldn't handle my baggage. I've had a rough life and he couldn't handle that and took off. And it's hard for me to even find guys because I'm not part of the party scene or the club scene. And gay guys on the dating sites, all the ones who talk to me live far away, or just want sex. Why can't I just find a guy to spend my life with.