I read all your posts. Don't relate to the Mom thing...We had good rapport and mine died when I was very young. Father another story...

But thing with you and your H. Boy do I relate...the power plays that go all the way into the bedroom. I sincerely sincerely sincerely wish and hope you can work it out, though. Being divorced can be way worse than a bad marriage. At least then I was financially secure and actually liked/loved my husband most of the time. We had a beautiful SoCal home. I sometimes think when he divorced me he should have just taken a gun and blown my head off.

Shoes it is.