I've had an OKC account since I was 18 and used it off and on. It's only been the past couple weeks where I've really been putting myself out there. You have to trust your gut. Either you want to put yourself out there or you don't. Don't feel like you have to. If you're not in the right place, you're not in the right place. For the past several years 99% of the messages I've received have been for booty calls, which is not what I want. So I am taking the initiative to search for guys I might be compatible with. Just had a sucessful date that never went anywhere. Now I'm talking with an uber nerdy guy who may or may not be a successful date. I'm not fond of uber nerdy guys, but so far, nothing I'm not liking. So you never know. OKC and any other dating website can be dangerous because you never know who the person is truly like until you date him in person. He may be the sweetest guy in the world or he may be the scariest guy in the world. You just never know. But it's all in your control. You have to be ready to put yourself out there, and there's no rush if you're not.