I have a sister who's a professional counselor, and she's the last person I would open up to. I got what felt like a kick in the gut from her once too often. It's interesting to me that she's always hated her job and took early retirement. She sent cops to my house once, without even talking to me first. My father simply told her he had called me and said I had obviously been crying when I answered his phone call. (I think I had just lost a job.) She could have called me first and asked what was going on. She didn't. I've decided she has severe problems with showing empathy and warmth. It's probably just beyond her. I've had to drop the bar - lower and lower - on my expectations . . . to protect myself from being hurt.