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Originally Posted by prefabsprout
Sorry I misread the emailing you about visiting when his wife is away as hitting on you, and also his being flirty which I think you mentioned. You will know best, trust your instinct on this.
I do believe men and men can be friends but if there is flirting then that is different IMO. I am very careful not to flirt with male friends and actually deliberately talk in a very practical down to earth way with them if that makes sense - best way I can describe it is communicating (often with gross humour) so there are absolutely no romantic vibes. 
You come across on here as being a vey friendly open type of person and I totally get that you prefer not to create conflict - I am similar. I use humour a lot to manage relationships/friendships - in your situation I may have been tempted to say something like "Hey, how come you only invite me over when Betty is away? If I didn't know better I'd think you were hitting on me" But that's just me. You know what works for you best. |
Well, it would get a bit complicated to confront someone who is narcissistic. They don't like any kind of criticism. So even that line you suggested would definitely make him angry and he would deny he was doing anything behind Betty's back. That's why I took the advice of others on this thread to just block him. Narcissists hate humor at their expense. They don't take well to even a tiny bit of criticism.
I am really done with this situation. It isn't all that important compared to everything else going on in my life.
I was surprised others picked up on my small remark about Mike being a narcissist and warned me. That was good.
Thanks.