I can really understand how frantic it can be when it seems that someone who I need to count on to help me doesn't care.

Is there anything that you can do to distract or calm yourself from the franticness? Well, posting here is certainly one thing, good for you! If he doesn't care, then you need to move on, probably. But if he's just disorganized, as it sounds like he may be, then. . .? Is that a deal-killer, too?