If I had a therapist I could trust, I would bring this up with them. But I don't trust any of them, I’ve tried so many. . .

So I wonder if anyone here could give me some input and suggestions? Frankly, I don’t get along with my cat's dermatology vet. She’s very directive and I feel talked down to when I have questions or, like now, I haven’t given him the shots for several weeks because he gets upset with me when I do it and so he moves too much and so it hurts him apparently more than it does for most cats, or if their owners do it correctly.

His allergy has flared up again and I could drive an hour and 15 minutes away to another specialist, but then all the testing would have to be redone in addition to the long drive.

I’ve developed a creative way of keeping a bandage on his legs when the allergy flares up, and he tolerates that and has gotten used to it. But the vet very much likes to be “in charge” and I feel put down and “bad” that I haven’t followed her directions – despite the fact that I have brought the animal to her clinic and paid her a lot.

Well, maybe she wouldn’t like to lose me as a client anyway. But right now I have a “one-down” attitude which seems to translate into her being more directive, repeating the talked-down to effect on me.

I'm very depressed and having trouble with "life" anyway, and hence this problem seems insolvable.

Any insights or suggestions would be appreciated!