Ok, glad to know that. One of the things I do when I see someone struggling, even when I am struggling myself is I make an effort to look at the bigger picture where people do behave badly or interact in ways that can be hurtful in general. I do this so I don't see myself as being so "out there and alone" in the way I struggle and feel and I try to do that for others as well if I can. It's never meant to lesson someone's genuine challenge, but more to help them not feel so alone with a challenge that really is reflecting something that person is experiencing that actually "is" toxic. I have found that helpful for myself in that I get a validation for "yeah, you are right, I see that as well".