What he's not willing to discuss ever again is my should I stay or should I go thing. I keep bringing it up, it goes in circles, he doesn't have anything new to say and he said hey, do you want to take some time to think about it? I said no, I'm good. So he was like, okay. I don't want to go through this same conversation again about if you're going to leave or not. I can't. If we have to do it again, I have to be done. And I think that's fair.

He's emotionally attached in his own right, but I don't think he sees it as such, which is part of the problem. What I don't think he gets is that emotional attachment and emotional intimacy is actually a thing. We're talking about a 36 year old who has literally had two girlfriends in his life.

I can't say I'm throwing myself into wanting to date him (as I said in my post). I find it hard, at 38, to want to date, period. It's hard on me when I know that I'm rubbish in relationships to want to continue to throw myself into them. I don't say that to whine or feel sorry for myself, it just is what it is. I think that both he and I get what we need from each other emotionally...I think everyone needs some emotional intimacy in their lives. I think that I get jealous when it comes to people's attention no matter who they are (he doesn't at all) and those kinds of traits in me may pose the problem. Otherwise...I guess when I think about it, I don't really see a problem.