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Originally Posted by graystreet
I see where you're coming from. However, that is the wording I used do describe a situation and conversation which essentially spanned a few weeks. It isn't fair for me to continue to tell someone I am leaving a friendship and then say oops, no, just kidding, I decided I'm back. That person has the right to say I don't want to keep doing the push-pull. To say you can have time to decide, but if you decide that you want to stay, then stay. If we continue to go in circles, for my own sake, I have to be done with it. It's emotional manipulation for me to keep leaving and coming back...wouldn't you want to draw that boundary? I probably would.
If there is one thing I know about this person 100% is that he is not controlling me. Not every man has malicious intent. Some actually are as nice as they come off at face value, even if the way I describe it doesn't make it seem that way. You are, however, entitled to your opinion, and I thank you for taking the time to give it.
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Well, it wasn't really about gender. That is about a man having malicious intent. I was not seeing it that way at all. I wasn't thinking of it as he was a controlling man.
I just thought the behavior sounded controlling.
I don't know. It sounds complicated, actually.
Because of this maybe people on here, myself included, are not understanding what is going on.
I probably should not have commented. Because really I don't fully understand your situation or what you want out of it. As a younger person I would not have spent that much effort on a platonic relationship because I was looking for romance. Now...probably the same, to be truthful. I don't have a lot of patience for complicated friendships. But if there was a chance of a future long-term thing...then yes, maybe I would put in the effort.