Hello everyone I am new bee to this site.Hello I recently discovered that my husband is gay. We are married for 11years and have two beautiful kids. I had my doubts but never really act on it and I knew if I would've asked him he would have denied like all other things. He is always interested in my conversation with my friends and like to check my phone and I never really have any problem with that because I have nothing to hide. I use to occasionally check his work phone (basic old model) too which he didn't mind and he was not concerned either. Since he kept using my phone I thought to gift him a smart phone so he can have his own conversations with his friends specially on WhatsApp. Since he started using his smartphone I never really bothered to check his work phone. He was away last weekend with his friends and he left his work phone home. I thought of checking it and found a msg where someone had asked him 'since when he is gay?' And since I read it my whole world was crumbling in front of my eyes. Everything was making sense. As sad as it sounds I don't want our marriage to end but I am not sure if I can stay with him like this for rest of my life. Please note my family and his family are old fashioned narrow minded. I have had training at work about LGBT and learned that there are some people who are A sexual. I always thought he might be one since he was always turning me down. Also I work very closely with children and I've seen the affect on them when their family break. I want to confront him very sensitively as I know it isn't going to be easy for him too. My concern is how should I break it to him, how will he react to it, I have got the evidence from his phone. I've checked his phone yesterday and everything is wiped out. At first i though he must have left the msg in the inbox on purpose for me to find out but the first question he asked me on his return was if I've looked in his phone, but I denied. Please help me what should I do?