Yeah, we have talked a great deal, and even did EMDR processing on it. He was hesident with talking about it, because he knows him professionally, and I get the impression that maybe he might have been my T's T at one time. But eventually I broke that shell, because I needed to talk about it.
My old T and me had a really nice connection, and we both liked each other a lot, but our relationship, became more. He fought it off so much, and was bothered by it, that is why I don't think it was a common thing he has dealt with before. My new T says that this does happen in therapy maybe once in a T's carreer, where they do meet and work with someone that they are drawned torwards and it is hard to fight those natural feelings that happen. But this wasn't used a attraction, it went much deeper than that between both of us. He tried to hide it, but it became so obvious to me and others that saw how he responded to me at the gym. It was so weird all the odd coinceidences between us, it really is amazing. I wish I could talk more about it here, but I probably shouldn't.

BUt, yes, it is an on going topic with my new T. My new T says that my relationship with my old T wasn't the typical therapy relationship with transference and countertransference problems, it was special, but it could never be for many reasons. I still feel him in my heart, I think he will always be there. It is something I have only felt for a couple of others in my life. My grandmother was one of them. I didn't feel it with my husband or my kids, or anyone else for at least 15 years. I don't know if I believe in soul mates, but it feels like that in a spiritial way.