I think positive success stories come from those who's partners realized the error of their ways, and fought tooth and nail to fix it...

The way you write, I get the picture that you are the one doing all the work.

That speaks volumes.

I understand the mindset of "its not over till its over" (Been in one of those relationships myself) and therefore I can ask you with conviction "At what cost cupcake?"

You've already been rejected, betrayed, financially abused, and stripped of your dignity (by chasing after a man who didn't want you)... What else must you lose or endure before you say enough is enough, and will it be worth it?

(It wasn't for me)

I'm sorry if I seem harsh, but reality checks are very rarely comforting, and right now it just honestly seems like you're thinking with your emotional mind and not paying much attention to your logical mind. You're so fixated on loving him and "getting him back" (which confuses me because I thought he is back), that you're leaving yourself behind... Which is sad.

Look, if he's groveling at your feet, doing everything he can to please and appease you, AS WELL AS going to therapy / marriage counseling to find out what the hell went wrong, then I say sure, give your marriage a shot.

But if this is still a one way street where you are wanting to make it work and all he's doing differently this time is showing up?

Then sorry to say, but I don't see a fairytale ending.

I wish you the best though