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Originally Posted by leomama
If I say something grates on me I'm not looking to be challenged, you know? I'm looking for empathy and support not to be told I'm wrong for feeling the way I do or to be judged. I'm simply speaking of my emotions, not my attitude. I had to leave home at 18, married at 24, divorced as a mother at 29. I don't identify with these adults who are living with their parents at those ages.
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I hope people will be honest with me---and some who have challenged me have helped me the most. I tend to consider anger and irritation as secondary to anxiety/threat/fear; or some of the signs of Depression.
Giving honest feedback is a part of being supportive. If we are able to step back and look at something from another's view point (empathy) ---which is often only possible by allowing yourself into uncomfortable territory that may challenge your feelings/beliefs---we grow as people. In turn, those people get to learn a whole lot from you that they didn't think of or know, or have any reason to know. I have supported myself since a teen, left home, worked worked worked, married, school, divorce, lost family and friends to tragedies, got a profession etcetcetc. My adult children are awesome. Younger people are altered by getting to know an older person and vice versa. Someone in an older generation didn't think much of you when you were young...doesn't make them righter/better/more worthy.
I DO feel empathy for you, it is not easy to deal with strong emotions in a work place. But you can only change how you deal with this.
Your feelings are your feelings and I would say "Yes they are real feelings". I am sorry it hurts you. Now. what do you do with this? This is the tip of an underlying big deal for you.
