LL are you sure your not on the Asexual spectrum.
Do you ever have that burn,ache to be taken or take, to bury yourself messy deep into another human being? Like the only thing that will make the ache go away is the touch of another person? That their taste their smell makes you need to touch them?

Or is it more that you enjoy reading about it,thinking about it,cuddling and kissing but the sex bit you could take it or leave it?
I am just a little concerned about your attitude.
No one should feel like sex is something they have to get on with.
It could be you have just had cruddy experiences so far of course.

Don't worry to much and see where the chemistry takes you if there is any.

It took me a long time to find my orientation, for a long time because like you I had no preference that made me pan or at least bi.

Infact it was the opposite, I can be attracted to all genders, but I have zero sexual desire of my own.I can enjoy their company,find them appealing, want to be close and even intimate to a point. But not sexual.
I am attracted to the individuality the gender, or type.

I sleep with my fella, because I love him, because he fulfills my D/s needs. And I keep him out of trouble.
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I don't know if any of this rings true for you.Or if perhaps as I said before you have had very poor previous experiences.
But I would be as certain as possible before it comes to that point,because as someone already said.
It's all about the cunilingus.