I have a tendency to feel things intensely, both positive and negative which means when I get frustrated, I sometimes raise my voice and can have a quick flash of anger. For the most part, I like myself and don't mind that I feel positive things intensely, but this anger thing is something I hate about myself. It's ruined a lot of relationships for me. It's the thing that ruined my relationship with my aunt with whom I was very close, only it was her anger which ruined it--I am pretty sensitive and can't tolerate yelling myself. I've attempted to work it out in counseling for years, but I've not had success.

I have been good friends with a guy for a bit and we'd probably be more except for the fact that he has plainly stated he cannot tolerate that part of me except in friendship...if he were to date someone, it would be as a prequel to something serious, and he knows he couldn't live with me given my anger. This is hard for me. While that is totally fair--if the tables were turned, I would feel the same way--I admit I have feelings for him, and the fact that he can't deal with something I also hate about myself makes it that much harder.

Do you guys deal with similar anger issues? What did you do that helped them, or is it just something you deal with?