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Originally Posted by Erebos
LL are you sure your not on the Asexual spectrum.
Do you ever have that burn,ache to be taken or take, to bury yourself messy deep into another human being? Like the only thing that will make the ache go away is the touch of another person? That their taste their smell makes you need to touch them?
Or is it more that you enjoy reading about it,thinking about it,cuddling and kissing but the sex bit you could take it or leave it?
I am just a little concerned about your attitude.
No one should feel like sex is something they have to get on with.
It could be you have just had cruddy experiences so far of course.
Don't worry to much and see where the chemistry takes you if there is any.
It took me a long time to find my orientation, for a long time because like you I had no preference that made me pan or at least bi.
Infact it was the opposite, I can be attracted to all genders, but I have zero sexual desire of my own.I can enjoy their company,find them appealing, want to be close and even intimate to a point. But not sexual.
I am attracted to the individuality the gender, or type.
I sleep with my fella, because I love him, because he fulfills my D/s needs. And I keep him out of trouble.
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I don't know if any of this rings true for you.Or if perhaps as I said before you have had very poor previous experiences.
But I would be as certain as possible before it comes to that point,because as someone already said.
It's all about the cunilingus.  |
I might be asexual. I have a high sex drive but I prefer to fulfill them with my own fantasies during masturbation. I really only like to give blow jobs because I have full control, and I've only done a*nal during masturbation. Intercourse I just lie there and past partners have done absolutely nothing to please me, just get off without any effort to make it pleasurable for me. I've only orgasmed by my own hand, and I can't make myself come through fingering the clitoris (I need to use a pillow to rub myself with in order to orgasm), I've never orgasmed with intercourse via dildo, and with a*nal my arm gets tired before I can orgasm. And when I masturbate I have to fantasize about brutal DT gagging or rape fantasies in order to orgasm.
My mom always told me I never liked to cuddle as a child, and to this day I don't like to be touched. I've never been raped or molested or abused. My nipples are extremely sensitive to touch and I hate pinching, squeezing, biting, licking. I've only had one or two partners successfully suck my nipples and made it feel good, and I do have fantasies where one of my characters come to me to "nurse" him and it's very gentle. However, my nipples aren't sensitive to my touch. When I have guys finger my clitoris I feel like I need to pee or that I feel painfully tickled. Intercourse is the same way, it feels excruciatingly painful, but not an "ow" painful, more like I'm being tickled to dearh.
I think my problem is I have to have 110% control. I can't get that with intercourse because it's the man's job to do the work and I feel like I just lie there while he does what he needs to do. That's why I love blow jobs, I have 110% control over giving him the blow job. And in receiving oral my speech tends to be limited as to instruct him in how I'd like it. So I might like going down on a girl because I'll have 110% control, but I much prefer the way a penis feels inside my mouth. Also, my biggest fantasy involves having a penis and in a relationship I want to use a strap-on as it turns me on to watch a man give oral and then to have full control while giving a*nal sex. I may have a touch of transgender, but no desire to change my sex.