I have told all my friends as my frequent hospitalisations over the last 7 years kind of give away something serious is going on. Close friends have been supportive but seem be over it and keep their distance when I am unwell. That hurts but I guess they just can't deal with it on an ongoing basis. Being unwell a lot can make any relationship strained. I know my close friends love me but I wish they could be more supportive when I really need it.

Being unwell physically as well also takes its toll as I can't go out with them very often due to exhaustion. I think they have kind of moved on without me. Still, I am glad I told them. I don't think it is the stigma of Bipolar that gets to my friends, it is what it does to me. Some can't comprehend why I keep getting sick and blame my doctors, T and/or me for it. It is frustrating as I have made so much progress it is just that at times I get severe episodes that land me in hospital. I try so hard to be a good friend and ask how they are, offer help and support but I seem to suck at it, or choose the wrong people.

My family on the other hand are very supportive and accepting. My parents have seen my T and old pdoc and accept me as I am. I am thankful for this. My boss knows I have a mental illness and is very supportive too, even though I had about 4 months off work last year while hospitalised. Again, I am very thankful.

You don't have to tell anyone. It is totally up to you how private you want to be. If I hadn't told my friends I think I would be in the same situation as it is difficult to hide so many hospitalisations. I would have to lie so much and I just can't do that. I am starting to make new friends and one in particular is very understanding and supportive.

I guess what I am trying to say is that some people will never get it and will think less of you but others will be extremely supportive and make your life brighter. I took risks telling people but I am not ashamed to have an illness. It does not define me in any way but does impact my life and explain some of my behaviour. If people don't get it I feel it is their loss in destroying our relationship. Telling people at work is a whole different thing. I would be reluctant to tell my boss I have Bipolar due to the stigma, and I would definitely not tell him I have had psychosis. Most people freak right out when you tell them that, again due to stigma. I am trying to be open though as I want to break down that stigma. I have the luxury of being able to tell all on Facebook that I have BP. Many people can't due to certain members of family or friends. It is a personal choice. There is no right answer that suits everyones situation.