I don't think it's always as simple as tell or don't, whatever works for u. I hate feeling like I am lying about it, but I need my job and I know that it would be career suicide where I work. Oh they would follow the law and make sure thaT isn't why u got fired, but they can find some other reason, or make u miserable enough you want to leave- bad schedule, move u to a new building or multiple buildings, etc. And sadly I think the worst reaction would actually be from certain coworkers.
I know I sound paranoid but if it came out every decision i made would start being questioned. So I choose to keep my mouth shut bc i like my job and think I actually make some sort of difference. But silence and secrecy sucks.
Would I like to not succumb to the fear and stigma- yes. And I think maybe I have gotten TOO good at hiding this crap. Idk. I have no idea how ppl would react except probably with surprise. Sometimes I wish I could just scream it from the rooftops. Maybe life would be easier. But I don't think I can do that with where I am now.
Anyway, it's interesting to hear other pppls experiences with this.