My T dresses in business wear; slacks, nice blouse, and slip-on flats. She often wears the same clothes and over the years to the point I've been able to guess which shirt she'll be wearing that day.

One day I was talking about how my Partner criticized the holes in my shoes and my T stuck her foot forward and showed me the hole near her right toe. I loved it. She was making the point that what someone wears doesn't have to be perfect or brand new to work or look relatively professional at all and people should just be treated with respect.

I'm 43 and I dress this way on most days - not with ripped jeans. I work in IT and at my office, we're allowed to wear tennis shoes and jeans - but no holes. I also often wear a hoodie.

Fun fact: I saw my T (Who is just a little older than me - late 40s I think) out in public once and she was dressed very much like I do on my casual days, converse, hoodie and jeans. She was soooo adorable too!