I don't really know what to say about this really. What I guess I can say, based on my own experience, is that human beings are incredibly complex confabulations of all sorts of emotions & motivations. So I think it is perfectly possible for a person to be a pathological liar on the one hand & to be empathetic on the other. I think we often wish, or perhaps would prefer, that we were more simple creatures than we are.

I wish I could understand one tenth of what has gone on in my life (most of which was my own doing.) I've written, here on PC, a number of times... I hope it can be said that I have been mentally ill my whole life. Because, if not, then that means I was simply a "bad seed". At this point in my life though it's too late to do anything about any of it. So it all just is what it is.

I believe you're correct about the time it will take to work through all of this with your therapist. I don't know about your partner. Perhaps he loves you more simply because knowing the truth about whatever lies you told means he knows you better .

I wish I had some solid advice to offer you. About all I can say is to keep digging into this with your therapist & try not to let the way others are questioning you get to you. You may need to learn to establish & enforce some personal boundaries here. Everything that needs to be said about all of this has been said. It's time for everyone to let it go & move on, not keep beating you over the head with it. The reality of the situation may be that if others simply cannot let it go, you may be forced to distance yourself from them for the sake of your own sanity. I wish you well...