Good parents want what is best for their children even if it causes them pain. You should be yourself and do what you want to do and shouldn't have to worry about how the feel about you. You are not the whole of your parents world and if you are it isn't your fault it is the fault of you parents. They need to learn to live their own lives and not be dependent on you as a source of social engagement.

My parents especially my mother have a bad habit of trying to live through me so I can relate in a way. My father was and still is a control freak in his own way and has tried unsuccessfully to turn me into the person he wishes he could have been.

The best thing you can do is just tell your parents that you need to live your own life and if they want to be apart of that then they need to understand you need your independence. If they can't understand that then you need to divorce yourself from the situation for awhile and let them come to terms with their own problems.