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Originally Posted by artemis-within
omg! yes! he used to complain about son sitting in his room all the time and not socializing! y'know the more i think about it, the more i thinks, that hubby is just not happy unless he is unhappy.... and that worked well when I was unhappy all the time. But I'm not anymore. And he must hate that.
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I'm not fond of your H. Seems like his house rules and expectations change on his moods. It's not a good pattern, I feel. As a child and now adult living in such an environment, it's stressful and engineers a feeling that "I can't do anything right that Dad approves of". Because the rules always change and one ends up walking on eggshells.
You're trying your best for your son and yourself. Even blaming yourself because H yells at you and makes you be "the bad guy" nagging your son whenever he's out doing NORMAL things like socialising. It's normal to socialise after work with friends. Your H seems to be controlling and honestly I think he's bad for you and your son.
I say this out of concern and am not aiming to blame you or stress you out.