Incidentally Viking, your quote comes from Heidi R Kling,
Author of A visitors guide to Mystic Falls and others.

Sorry whatdidiexpect, I did not mean to hijack your thread, I have read your post and intend to reply but believe it needs some thought and introspection, so I won't try and answer while on the school run.

I just wAnted to say I am sorry for your loss. Give yourself a chance to grieve, because it sounds like you have an awful lot to grieve for.
Stick around and I will endeavour to be more helpful later on.
Take care.be kind to yourself.