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Originally Posted by Patagonia
Well I am a cheater & I have many reasons. Some r probably strange to most people.
If your philosophy is that we as humans are descended from mammals I wonder why only about 12% of mammals are monogamous.
So how did humans become monogamous? That varies. Some believe it came with the adaptation of religion & taking a female as a possession & according to religion it would be wrong to take something that's not yours. So we're these rules human made or from some type of God.
Really depends on what you believe & how far down you scratch the surface.
Do you search for the Oprah answers or spiritual answers etc etc.
You asked the question of why people cheat & I think you'll get many different answers. There is no universal answer.
And if a person cheats does that mean they don't love you....are you asking other monogamous people, polyamorous people, people that share your same ethnic beliefs?
Where do you stand in your core values & does your boyfriend share these core values. Have you discussed this with him.
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Thanks for your response! We have talked about it. And from the start it was clear that we both want monogamy. He easily gets jealous so i was taken aback when i discovered the cheating and how much he's prone to it.
I just wish he stops this instead of trying to push himself to be someone he's not. I can see that he wants to be in this relationship but he's so torn between monogamy and his "sexual needs" and "urges"... I keep telling him to leave if he still wants to "explore", im willing to let him go just don't cheat on me. But he keeps saying that he's ready for this, he wants to be committed and then months or weeks later, i discover him cheating (in various ways, with different women).
It's making me think that maybe im like a house that he can come home to when he's done exploring the outdoors.
Is there a way to make him stop though? What do i do here